Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed.
Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.
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1. Dress Sharp
Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.
This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.
2. Walk Faster
One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.
3. Good Posture
Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.
4. Personal Commercial
One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.
5. Gratitude
When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.
6. Compliment other people
When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.
7. Sit in the front row
In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.
8. Speak up
During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.
9. Work out
Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.
10. Focus on contribution
Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.
1. WE DON’T HAVE BUSINESS PROBLEMS WE HAVE PEOPLE PROBLEMS.
When we take care of our people problems, most of our business problems are automatically resolved.
2. WHENEVER A PERSON SAYS I CANNOT DO THIS HE IS REALLY SAYING TWO THINGS.
OR
ATTITUDE - Increase productivity and profit by developing a ‘Can do Attitude’.
We have asked many decision makers this one question.
“If there was one thing that would make your organization more productive what would that be?”
Pretty much everyone came back with one word ATTITUDE. They said if our people have better attitude we would have a better teamwork, quality and bottom line would go up.
How come under the same set of circumstances some people break records while others break themselves.
OUR ATTITUDE
Everyone wants to climb the ladder to success only to find that the ladder is leaning against the wrong building.
There are customer service and selling skills programs that teach, "How to say please, thankyou, and smile". The big question comes how long can we keep a fake smile. Besides people can see through people, can’t they? If the smile is not sincere it is irritating, isn’t it? That means we need to have substance over form, not form over substance.
Unlike most professionals who keep telling others,
What to do,
We take an approach
Why don’t you,
because we believe most people already know what to do.
If you ask the person on the street they will give you all the right answers. Ask them,
are they doing it?
Probably not.
What’s missing is the MOTIVATION; the big question is,
can we motivate people?
Absolutely not
What we can do is, we can inspire people to motivate themselves.Inspiration is thinking whereas motivation is action. I cannot act for you; you have to act for yourselves. When thinking changes it starts reflecting in behaviour. Which is more lasting, and that’s what people are looking for, aren't they?
Two major questions:
I.T. certainly has increased the speed of communication no doubt, but unless people know how to and what to communicate, they will only miscommunicate a lot faster, won’t they? Guess what is the cost of miscommunication faster? It is horrendous, isn't it?
Self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. When we feel good, the world looks nice, productivity goes up and relationships are a lot better. The reverse is just as true. Self-esteem is inversely related to egos.
Have you seen people with egos like,
I know it all.
What do they do?
They talk down to others,don't they? They put down others,don't they? They look down upon others and every decision they make is more to satisfy ego than make sense.
Question is, why does a human being put down another human being? It is sadistic but true there are some people in this world who feel good when the other person feels bad.
There is another kind of ego which is 'FRAGILE EGO’ - where any thing you say, I take it personally and get hurt. What do both these egos do to teamwork? - DESTROY IT.
Why do people deal with us? Not because we are the smartest people but because they feel comfortable dealing with us.
What gives them the feeling of comfort? It is the X factor. How do we build the X factor?
People don’t care how much you know they want to know how much you care.
Unless people have individual goals, how can they tie-up with corporate goals? Goal setting includes a holistic approach which means people take family problems to work and bring work problems
to family. Don’t they?
There is no such thing known as neutral leaders. Either they are good leaders or bad leaders.
Good leaders actively guide, bad leaders actively misguide. Good leaders look to create more leaders, bad leaders look to create followers. Why? Because they feel insecure.
It is not problem solving but pre-empting and preventing.
Profitability is not only money but goodwill too.
Profitability is not the reason why we practice values. We practice values because we believe in them. When we believe in something, we will or won't do things, even if no one is watching.
All of the above is only theory unless we have a system to put it in practice.
WHAT makes our program unique is that participants leave our program with an action plan, which can be implemented immediately. Over 24,000 people have benefited from our dynamic programs.
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